I did and yet they all came out if the woodwork to gather their share of inheritance ... overwhelming at its best

I’m so sorry you also had all that responsibility with your mom without your brother’s help.
Can you have a meeting with your daughter, son-in-law, and grandchildren about distributing responsibilities in the home as it’s all too much for you? Maybe a therapist or social worker can help you create a healthier situation for yourself. They may not like it at first because it’s a new behavior from you, but if you remain persistent about sticking up for yourself they will adjust to the new you with the new rules and work flow. Good luck and let us know how it works out. ❤️

Look for Celebrate Recovery meeting near you. They can provide you with an excellent outlet for your feelings without judgment.

Yes my mom was on hospice at my home and I took care of her for years in every way, my brother never helped and didn’t even go to her funeral, I had to take care of everything.. my daughter and her husband three children live here at my home and I do everything because she had back surgery and says she can’t but she goes all over with her friends worked construction ..

I also have RA and PSA. Am on SSDI. My brother was helping with our mother. Now wants me to put her in assisted living. She has some dementia and 30% kidney function which doesnt help her any. This assisted living facility is 30 miles away so I'm going to have a drive everytime I need to go see her. I can totally understand where you're at with your family. It gets very difficult
Thank goodness you have a helpful and understanding husband
Mine doesnt help.