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Telling White Lies

Posted on June 26, 2019

Have you ever told a white lie to be kind, to protect the feelings of others, or maybe to simply avoid stigma? You're not alone.

For some living with a chronic condition, telling a white lie can be a way to save one's strength. Sometimes it's easier not to share your unvarnished truth, especially when it doesn't hurt anyone else.

Have you ever found yourself saying any of the following?

1. "No, no. I can do it myself."
2. "I'm not scared/nervous/anxious/unsure."
3. "I'm fine. Really."
4. "Don't worry. I'm used to this."
5. "No, I'm not in much pain."

Here are some conversations from the community about this topic:

“Lesson learned: DO NOT push yourself, especially if you are on an immunosuppressant and have a chronic illness! We are all superheroes for simply coping day to day.”

“I feel like RA has changed my marriage a bit. Mostly with activities we used to do regularly. Like biking...hiking...I am not as strong as him and some things need to be modified… I don’t give up and I always think it can be worse.”

“Stay the course, write down all of the symptoms and times you are taking which meds and show it to a doctor who is willing to help figure this out.”

Why do you choose a white lie over sharing your true feelings?
What do you wish you could say instead?

A myRAteam Member said:

I usually say that I am fine. Thank you

posted 16 days ago

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