"A waiting person is a patient person." - Henri J.M. Nouwen
Argh! Have you ever felt impatient at a red light, or irritated at the end of a long line for your prescription at the pharmacy? You're not alone.
Patience can feel scarce when you don't have control over a situation. It can feel like rheumatoid arthritis interrupted your life and brought a slew of frustrations at the worst moments. Finding a tiny bit of control can bring us patience later.
Control might look like self-care: a walk around the block, getting up early for 15 minutes of alone time, spending time each week encouraging others who have RA or starting a gratitude journal. Don't let anyone (including yourself!) make you feel guilty for taking care of yourself.
Here are some conversations about patience on myRAteam:
• "As I'm feeling overwhelmed at various moments this week I am reminding myself that I can get everything done and I just need to focus on one thing at a time and mitigate the anxiety; instead of cringing and freaking out internally about the things I have left to do. RA has taught me a little patience and persistence - no matter the pace."
• "I think years of pushing myself to go all day, all the time, especially with work, has made me forget patience with myself. It's ok to take time to heal, it's ok that I am not on MY schedule for recovering as long as I am on the RIGHT time frame for recovery, it's ok that I can't drive yet, or even fix my hair. In a few weeks, I am sure I will get some more movement back and I will be able to cross one of those things off my list, but until then I suppose I will be working on being patient with myself."
• "I very much relate to having to have patience with ourselves and the shock of not being able to do even a quarter of what we used to. What was once easy is now a think-it-through challenge. But we can still keep going...work around it and make accommodations. I know it is frustrating...but there is a lot of life left to live! Stay positive!"
Have you found ways to take back control and practice patience? What do you do to be more open to self-care? Share your insights in the comments below or directly on myRAteam.com.
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