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How do I deal with People that are hateful to me at church because I carry a cane one day and pick up a child another day.

A myRAteam Member asked a question 💭

I take methatrexate and it makes me so tired and worn out the 2 days after.
my pins and needles some days hurt so bad but I push through and work. but I have had people that have RA say they just do what they have to me. Like I say I can't walk up stairs one day even though I have done in the week before.

May 6
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A myRAteam Member

Well said @A myRAteam Member I was thinking the exact same thought! @A myRAteam Member ignore them. Attend Church, find a new Church or just Pray on it. God sees it all. Do what you can, as you can! {{Hugs}}

May 7
A myRAteam Member

People who don't have RA or someone they know who has it, they just don't get us. Don't worry about what others think. It is your disease and life. Concentrate on people who support you. Think the best and don't worry about the rest.

May 6
myRAteam

First, know that what you're experiencing is real, valid, and incredibly common with RA. The unpredictable nature of RA is one of the hardest things for others — even those with RA themselves — to understand. No two days are the same, and that's not weakness, that's just RA being RA.

The fatigue from methotrexate is a Show Full Answer

First, know that what you're experiencing is real, valid, and incredibly common with RA. The unpredictable nature of RA is one of the hardest things for others — even those with RA themselves — to understand. No two days are the same, and that's not weakness, that's just RA being RA.

The fatigue from methotrexate is a well-known side effect, often hitting hardest in the 1-2 days after taking it. It can make even simple tasks feel impossible, regardless of what you managed to do earlier in the week. RA symptoms genuinely fluctuate day to day, and that's what makes it so misunderstood. Being able to pick up a child doesn't mean stairs are manageable that same day — different movements, different joints, different pain levels.

Here are some ways to cope with the judgment:

- You don't owe anyone an explanation. Your health is private, and you get to decide what you share.
- Keep a small circle of supportive people who truly understand what you're going through.
- Connect with others on myRAteam who share similar experiences — many members describe the exact same social challenges.
- Consider speaking with a counselor or therapist — research shows it can genuinely help manage the emotional weight of living with RA.

The people judging you are simply not equipped to understand chronic, fluctuating pain. That says everything about their limitations, and nothing about yours. You're already doing something remarkable just by pushing through each day. 💙

May 6
A myRAteam Member

And truly after thinking about this all day, I would really be upset if church members were being hateful or.judgemental..may not be the right place.of worship for.you. so very sorry. Christians should do.better

May 6

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