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Some days I’ll feel fine dare I say amazing and want to do everything, then I end up crashing the next day. Then when I crash, I can’t do anything, so I feel even worse and start feeling guilty when I can’t be productive.

April 1
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Members deeply connected over the challenge of overcommitting on good days and then crashing the next, with the overwhelming consensus being... Read more

Members deeply connected over the challenge of overcommitting on good days and then crashing the next, with the overwhelming consensus being that pacing yourself and listening to your body is essential even when it feels unnatural or disappointing. Several members shared practical strategies including planning energy rather than just tasks, celebrating small wins instead of fixating on what didn't get done, treating rest as part of progress rather than failure, and doing housework in small increments with built-in breaks. A recurring theme was the grief and mental toll of accepting a new normal where you cannot do as much as before, the guilt of canceling plans or saying no to invitations, and the importance of showing yourself grace on the hard days when even checking the mailbox feels monumental.

A myRAteam Member

It helps to plan your energy, not just your tasks, so you don’t push too hard on good days. Setting realistic limits can actually keep your progress steady over time. It’s also important to see rest as part of staying consistent, not falling behind. And when everything doesn’t get done, focusing on small wins can make a big difference.

April 2
A myRAteam Member

Do what you can when you can. When you can't, read a good book, meditate, and rest!😀

April 7
A myRAteam Member

Yes I have to pace myself to it is hard. My hands and hips are giving trouble. I am 68 52 2007 I got RA, Diebetic, Asthma, my back looked like a old broken stairs. I was disabeled by 53. Later reciveved 3 more dieeases .ANd ILLIAN my illey.

April 6
A myRAteam Member

Unfortunately you do need to pace yourself & learn to listen to your body because doing too much on a good day does create a vicious cycle. I have learned this the hard way myself. It is my new normal & I had to learn to accept it & be okay with it. I can't do as much as I used to be able to do & have to say no to invites often too. It is not an easy thing to accept & still stresses me out sometimes or makes me feel bad but you have to take care of yourself.

April 6
A myRAteam Member

House works will still be there when you are not.
Do it at your pace. A bit at a time .
When you are feeling tired, sit and chill.

April 7

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