Candice just try to close the gap with him about this disease as fast as you can even if you have to go to a professional 4 counseling on this new medical issue so it's not a counseling session about your relationship as much as it is is how do we both handle my new medical condition. It softens the blow for a guy to go into counseling thinking he's an issue but he's not the issue is that disease and it's like honey I need help and I need you to help me and then I found a counselor and he going to see a counselor what's wrong with our relationship there's nothing wrong with our relationship but this is something wrong with me medically and the council is going to help us to figure out how and I relationship to handle this because it may be getting a lot worse before it gets any better and I just wanted to hit something in the bottom before it tries to take over our relationship because I love you that much sweetie and that's how I would address it and being a guy I wouldn't be threatened by that matter fact I would feel like you're making me try to be a hero and I appreciate that. God bless you we all love you. Amen.

My spouse did not understand at first. When he did I still realized there were times he seem to forget my limitations. I did have to realize that RA affected him also. In the way of limiting what we could do together. One thing that helped, and I am sorry I do not know where I saw it, but I came across an article explaining how I felt and how a person living with someone with arthritis felt. I printed it and gave it to him to read. Told him that was how I felt, how I thought he might feel. And what I felt when he acted certain ways. Even if he didn't mean to, that action made me feel....... I also realized I had to 'remind' him when things were slipping back. It takes time and remember they will never 'get it' all the time. Sorrt so long.

Well my spouse retired a year and 1/2 ago, he takes care of the house and the cooking, sometimes I get home on a Friday and he has done the laundry also, without his help I couldn't do it all like I did before,RA
so I told him I would cook on weekends. He gets frustrated at times and doesn't understand what I'm going through, and it does bother me, but I keep,reminding him how much I appreciate his help.

Maybe he is having pain of his own and can't share because he feel it might stress you out. Find something you both enjoy and indulge in making one another forget and heal

Sometimes our spouse's suffer along with us, they also grieve for the old US. When someone Loves you it pains them to see you suffer so. My husband also goes through those times. He probably is just adjusting. Maybe it just is so hard at times to watch you suffer. When he gets his second wind, he will be back to bring there as always. All you can do is Love him, and show him you appreciate him.
Blessings to you and yours