I want everyone to just be normal and treat me the same. If I need help then I'll ask for it. If I feel like visiting, I will. If it's a bad day- call another time. My husband tries to take over some of my chores to help out. But I need to do those chores myself to feel useful. Also the movement is good for me. And he means well but... have you ever drank a cup of tea rhen found dried food in the bottom of your cup? That's gross. The more he treats me like a doll and coddles me, the more helpless and dependent I'll become. I refuse to be a burden so I watch my weight and try to do what I can for others. Crochet things, mending, write letters for different purposes, restore old photographs repair jewelry, cook and share, pet sitting... there are many ways to reciprocate or repay others for their help and kindness. As long as I can still move I make myself do things. Sometimes it's hard and I have to rest at times but I like to think I can be there for my family and friends when they have needs. Otherwise, I'd become a sofa pillow, who drinks tea out of dirty cups.