I'm so sorry you're going through a rough time. I was there at one point. I know the pain your going through. It was bad that i wanted to take a bottle of pills to end the pain. Nobody deserves to live like that. But i learned to live day by day. If i had the the strength to clean the house or wash the dishes, i would do it. If not the hell with the house. I took care of me. So you need to care for yourself. Even if you sleep all day. You come first. Who cares what other people say. Soft hugs. Keep your head up girlfriend. 😊

Have you heard of Low Dose Naltrexone? - https://www.ldnresearchtrust.org/what-is-ldn. I'm waiting to be prescribed it privately in the new year I wish I could get it sooner.
I have been prescribed MTX but I'm not taking it until I've tried LDN

As a man, your story really upsets me and I was in the army. Forgive me, I know I don't know either of you, but your husband needs to man up and stop being a bully. I always help and support my wife. I did through her pregnancies and her shoulder replacement.... I'm sure I've failed somewhere, too.

Now that my rant is over, it's taken a while for my wife to understand my pain and struggles. I finally had to sit her down and explain what this disease really is. I told her I will need her help at times. At the end of the day, we agreed we need to communicate.

I use this site to vent, though, so I don't make this disease the focus of our marriage.

As others have said, we're here for each other. Be good to yourself.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I have lost a close friend because they did not understand my RA and basically said I use it when its convenient and when I don't want to do something. This site is super helpful and I hope we can give you some support. Quality of life can suck with RA but it can get better. I'm still waiting for that to happen too. Hugs sent your way.